I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are.
-- Milton Berle
Circumstances do not make the man, they reveal him.
-- James Allen
The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.